Picture that black and white world of June Cleaver, the husband returning home from work to a spotless house, dinner waiting and the kids well-behaved and just waiting for the friendly-fatherly advice. Now shake your head and get a reality grip - this isn’t the world of television and you’d be so lucky to have your household like that at the end of day. In this day and age, the stereotypes of TV-land still exist in the minds of many a man (and women). If you are looking to become a stay-at home mom, you need to prepare yourself for what it’ll really be like.Rid yourself of those fantasies or you’ll be heading into disaster. When so many moms are choosing to stay home and raise their children, few are prepared for the mental and emotional strain it can cause. But all is not lost - with the right preparation and organization, you can have that picture-perfect world and more.
The life of a SAHM is truly a world that you need to enter with your eyes wide open. You will be responsible for your child, or children, and be their main influence until they enter school. You will be with them 24/7, monitoring their actions, behaviors, speech - everything will come down on you to set the proper example. There’s no blaming the daycare system or the babysitter - you’re it. There’s no magical maid showing up to clean away the dishes from the morning or the pile of toys scattered through the house from kitchen to the upstairs bathroom. And no, you won’t have time to eat bonbons and read romance novels - you will need to be in control of your household from Day 1 to succeed as a SAHM. Here are a few tips to ease you into this world, but in the end, you need to create your own path.
Be confident in your position - you are a mother and no one can take that away from you. Be an example to your children and teach them right from wrong every day. Your children will need guidance every day in everything they do-be there as a helping hand to their development. You will watch them grow before your eyes in so many ways, and you’ll enjoy their company-even on those days you’re ready to pull your hair out. Understand that as much as you’re adjusting to a new world with them as the center, so they are watching you as their role model in everything from eating to cleaning to talking. Don’t forget or a reminder of a bad day will come back to haunt you unwillingly.
The house is just a matter of organization. You have to learn that housework won’t wait, but if you make yourself a fairly flexible schedule, you won’t be bogged down with a filthy house and chores up to your neck. Utilize also your little helpers - children love to help and learn, and what better way to teach them about maintaining a clean home than to have them help you. Little jobs like sorting laundry, or folding towels are like a game to them, but it teaches them how to be constructive, and tidy. And always make sure they help in the clean up of their own areas. But don’t let housework interfere with small things like playtime with your child - you should always have time for that. Your child is only that young once and dishes can wait an extra half hour while you read stories or do a puppet show.
Remember this is your home and you have to live up to your standards and no one else’s. Don’t try to imitate people’s homes that have no children, or families who’s children are at daycare all week - you’ll be disappointed. Your home is lived in, day in and day out, and it will show. But wear it as a badge of pride, for you have taken on a challenge many couldn’t or wouldn’t. The pay is terrible, and the thanks are few and far between, but it will be rewarding in itself as you watch your child grow and flourish in your care. And classify yourself a household manager, when it comes to job description if asked, because few can manage a home, children, husband and keep their sanity, but if you can, you have manage it all. June Cleaver never had it so good.
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