Rabu, 18 Agustus 2010

Become a better mother

Becoming a mother is probably the most important role you will ever have in life. When you become the parent of a child, your priorities will suddenly shift, and your perspectives on life will change. Your focus will be on what is best for your child. Of course, you want to be the best mother you possibly can, but how do you know that you are doing a fantastic job, and what can you do to improve?

One of the first points you need to remember is that nobody is perfect. This holds true for mothers especially. Once you become a mother, you will be introduced to the world of guilt. That’s right, guilt. You will spend your days and nights questioning every decision and justifying each choice that you make regarding your child. You may be justifying these decisions to others from time to time, but probably your toughest critic will be yourself. Are you doing the best for your child? Can you become a better parent? Only you know the answers to these questions, but there are some things you can consider that just might help you become a better mother. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t a good mother already. It just means that there are some issues you may need to take a look at and some areas you could possibly improve in.

Many mothers wish they had more patience on a daily basis. You may need more patience to deal with your child’s constant whining. You may wish you had more patience to deal with your children’s bickering and sibling rivalry. Maybe you just wish you had more patience to deal with your toddler’s endless questions or your teen’s sullen attitude. You are not alone. Patience is a big part of mothering, and there will be times when you need to be extremely patient.

When you clearly feel that you are all out of patience, take a moment to flash forward to the future. One day, your toddler will be a teen who won’t want or need your wisdom. Today, your toddler looks at you with adoring eyes, and he believes that you can fix everything. Once he’s a teen, however, he may only roll those eyes at you when you try to offer advice. If you want to become a better mother, try to be a more patient one.

Although you may hold down a full-time job and handle many demands every day, your child still needs your time. This may mean that you need to neglect other demands in your life, such as a clean house or a full-course meal. When you really stop to consider your life, though, is a spotless floor really worth the extra time that you might have to take from your child? Does your son or daughter really care if you have a gourmet meal on the table?

Take some time to crawl down the hall with your baby chasing after you. Help your toddler work that new puzzle. Spend an evening finger painting with your five-year-old. Even though your pre-teen may not show it, she needs you, too. Plan a shopping trip that focuses only on her. You don’t have to spend much money, but you can enjoy spending an afternoon together. Make sure you stop for ice cream on the way home.

Your teenager wants you at his sports or other extracurricular events, even if he doesn’t show it. Show him that he is important by supporting his hobbies and interests. Don’t worry if he doesn’t talk to you very much. It will make a difference that you took the time to be there for him. The important thing is that you give of yourself.

Finally, try to find and keep a sense of humor. Life is tough, and there will be difficult times along the way. Once you become a mother, you can’t just quit, even though there will be days when you will want to throw up your hands and walk away. Try to realize that more than likely the situation isn’t as bad as it seems. Teach your child how to handle life’s unexpected curves by handling things with humor, if you can. Sometimes, the only way to survive life is to laugh your way through it. Show your child that you can find the good in even the worst of times. As you improve yourself, you can become an even better mother than you already are!

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