There are many conflicts involved with being a working mom. If it isn’t already hard enough juggling the many duties of mom, housewife, cook, maid, taxi-cab driver, tutor, wife, and doctor, the working mom also has pressures of having a career. How does one find time to be all these things and still work a 40 hours work week? How does one juggle these two roles?
Often the conflicts of being a working woman and a mom can not only cause stress, but disharmony in the family. So how does a woman deal with these conflicting interests?
When mom is at work, the stresses of being a mother need to stay at home. However, this is much more difficult said than done. But here are some surefire ways to help:
1. Have the kids set out their clothes the night before. This will end some of the morning stresses of, "mom I can’t find anything to wear, mom where’s my socks, mom…"
2. Have the kids make their lunches right before bed. This will end the cries of, "mom, we don’t have anything to make for lunch."
3. When the kids finish their homework, have them put it away and next to the front door. This will stop the last minute searches for homework.
4. The night before, think about what you would like for dinner. In the morning, get up a half hour early and put all the ingredients into a slow cooker, turn it on low and let it cook while you are at work. This will end the worries of what to cook when you get home from work.
5. Once the chaos of the morning is over, and you are on your way to work. Put on some relaxing music. Allow the stress of getting the kids off to school leave you before you enter your place of work.
6. Consider getting a beeper or cell phone for school emergencies and have the teachers call that number should anything happen to the kids. This will end the anxiety and stress of having personal phone calls made on company phones as well as help you to relax when answering the phones (knowing that it won’t be your kids).
When mom is at home, the stresses of the job need to stay at work. Again, this is harder said than done. But perhaps these ideas will help:
1. Before leaving work, make a to do list for the next days tasks.
2. If a project will only take an extra five minutes to finish, do it before you leave. This way, you won’t beat yourself up over not having finished it.
3. Don’t start any new tasks, that you cannot finish thirty minutes before you leave work.
4. Play some de-stressing music on the way home. Or listen to your favorite sports station or tape.
5. If you have to take work home, don’t do it when you first walk in the door. Spend some time with the kids and husband first. Tell yourself that you can finish your work when the kids are in bed or off doing their own thing.
6. Make it a habit of having family meals together. Turn off the t.v. and the radio and just enjoy the company of each other. It won’t be easy at first, but it’ll all pay off in the end.
7. Most importantly, remind yourself that the job is only a means to helping your family, not destroying it.
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