Mom's from conception on worry about their kids, and want the best for them, and try to give them the best they can. Kids are very satisfied with attention and affection from moms: however, moms always to seem to want to do more and give more. Unconditional love and physical well being are how kids are happy and satisfied.
The physical care for children seem the easiest to figure out: shelter, clothing, medical care, rest and exercise etc. Kids are happy to have the warmth and security of the home and family. These tasks are not always as simple as it seems.
In the past it was easier for moms to stay at home with their kids and raise them: keep them close to them and watch them grow happy and strong. Nevertheless, today is so different for moms. The worry about income makes it necessary for many to have to work full-time outside the house, single parent homes have many worries and struggles. Many moms deal with weekend visits, individual attention for their kids, proper education and everyday problems that all children seem to have. Moms just need to relax and take time to spend with the kids. Laundry and dishes may have come later. However, the time you spend reading a book or visiting with your child about the day, he/she had will make the child's day and make them seem that they are very important in your life.
Many kids need to be shown love. Abstract feelings of love are hard for children to get the concept of. For the child love is easier to understand through the use of their senses. Touching, smelling, tasting, hearing and seeing. If moms take the extra efforts to show their kids they are loved, they can grow up more secure and responsible as adults. A hug, special hand made card saying I love you on it, saying I love you and letting them know they are good kids helps children realize they are loved and what love is.
Moms' unconditional love is sometimes the hardest but the most necessary to give a child. Whether a child is good or bad, well or ill, smart or has special needs the love from mom is always there. Children seem to need it the most when things are not good for them. It seems that a child may test a moms love. Some days they are the worst children they have ever been but moms love is still there, and children need to know that.
Communication with their children seems to be the bridge to a good and healthy relationship between moms and their children. The most important part of communication for moms is listening. Many times moms are in too big of a hurry to speak and less interested in listening. The way to learn is to listen. Children learn from moms as well as moms learn from children. It is not always easy for a mom to listen in a busied life nevertheless listening is sometimes the most important. Take the time to stop and listen to what your child has to say it will be a precious moment that can be turned into a precious memory.
Moms need to be consistent with children. Children learn to trust this way. A mom says something it is important to follow through with that statement. Whether it be a boundary for a child (where they can go, curfews, friends) or a special time and day set aside for them. Consistency is an everyday thing that will go on through the life of the child. They trust boundaries that are set for them and look forward to the time they get with mom. As children grow and have ideas of their own, it is important for moms to keep communicating and listening to their children. There are different needs in children as they grow and change and it is important for moms to recognize their changes and needs with an open mind and a lot of understanding. Sometimes tough love is a hard thing to for moms but a much-needed thing in children's lives.
There are some moms that are too hard on themselves by always worrying they are doing something wrong, making wrong choices and decisions. It is very true everyone, not only moms makes mistakes. Once we understand that we do not do everything right for our children, then we can be more relaxed. Children are the first to show forgiveness and understanding when something goes wrong for a mom. We learn to accept their forgiveness and can learn from the mistakes that are made. Being a mom of four children of my own and four stepchildren it is an everyday ordeal to make choices and decisions. Many decisions are made too quickly and wrongly but with communication and understanding children and moms can great relationships.
Challenges of a mom and their children are not something to worry about rather something to be accepted. As they grow and change moms change and grow too. Letting a child make their own choices, decisions, and mistakes is very hard. The hardest task for a mom is to let them grow away from you. Moms tend to hold on tighter when a child starts to drift. This is when it is important for a mom to trust in herself. The efforts and guidance that was given to her child while growing up was done right and that the road they choose will be the best they can for themselves.
It may be easiest to understand a child growing up and changing by looking at it from a different concept. You make and mold this child into something you believe will make a good adult and he/she knows the right and wrong of life and teach them to make good sound choices. However, through time this mold changes and develops into something even a mom sometimes has a hard time recognizing. Nevertheless, if a mom really looks hard they can see that the mold they started with was the base for something much more beautiful and wonderful then she could have ever expected. Her young child grows into a well-rounded adult. The biggest challenge a woman may ever have is the job of a mom, but along with the challenges comes the greatest rewards life can give a woman. The rewards of respect, honor, forgiveness, peace and above all a love that can go forever will be in your memory.
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