Anyone can find someone they like better when they do not value their marriage. A housewife might find someone she likes better at the community events she attends, or at her children's sports games, schools, grocery stores, and gym. A woman who suddenly finds someone she likes better than her husband is not committed to her marriage and that is what it all boils down to.
It is a fact of life that a career minded woman is not committed to her marriage! A career woman is committed to her career. So it would go without saying that the chances are much greater that she would undervalue her husband and the sanctity of her marriage more than a woman who has decided in her heart to stay home, raise and family and be home for her husband. Unfortunately, there are less of the latter in this country.
As we all know, a career woman will have a difficult time being there for her family, and pursuing her ambition at the same time. Someone is going to be left out, and it is usually the family. I don't advise a woman who is pursuing a career to get married. It's really that simple. Why get married if you aren't going to be married to your husband? And I do not advise a man to marry a career woman if he expects a traditional style home and family life, because it isn't going to happen.
Michael Noer was attempting to make a point but left out the root of the problem. The problem is what I constantly write about in my marriage books and articles. When couples are not devoted to the marriage in the first place, the marriage will most definitely fall on rocky times, whether the wife has a career or not.
The writer also says that career women are more likely to cheat! I think this was a cheap shot. I can actually understand why this writer got a lot of flack from the feminist movement and why Forbes magazine eventually had to apologize for Mr. Noer's article. Even if it were correct, he labeled the career woman in an unethical category, which we all know is not altogether true. Unfortunately people do not see the big picture for what it really is.
The big picture is we live in a Godless society. Career woman or not, it doesn't matter one smidgen. The title should have read: "Don't Marry a Godless Woman."
Come on folks, you know that America promotes godlessness, such as adultery, divorce, and promotion of women in the workforce, so what do you expect when people do not live by God's design and standards for marriage? People have simply made society's standards their belief for marriage and now they are complaining about it! The effect of what society does will come back and bite them on the tail every darn time and they still won't get it.
Mr. Noer forgot about all the desperate housewife's out there who cheat on their husbands? My goodness, are they not just as much to blame for the wreck of the family unit as the career woman? How would you really know? Could it be that the career woman is more likely to divorce because over half of all the women in America are career women? Or could it be that career women do not have time for God in their life because they are too busy pursuing their career? Yes to both.
I am all for the sanctity of marriage and family and you should be too. And that is precisely why we need to look at the big picture to understand the real reasons behind the high rate of divorce in this godless society. Putting the blame on the symptom will not make divorce go away. Listening to and applying sound wisdom and advice from above will actually mend this broken society if people would only apply its wisdom into their own marriage and life.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness...What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?...For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people." Therefore come out from them and be separate," says the Lord.
2 Corinthians, 6:14-17
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